Do you love yourself? Self-love is something that everyone – especially women – should master in order to stay strong and know their worth. I learned self-love a few years ago and since then I have come across many people who don’t know their worth, don’t love themselves and if they do – it’s not enough. I want to share some of the ways that I was able to learn self-love and why it’s important to me.
What Exactly is “Self-Love”
Many people talk about it, but they don’t actually know or understand what it means. There isn’t just one definition for self-love since everyone loves differently. For me, it was truly realizing my worth, demanding the respect that I deserve, learning not to criticize myself, prioritizing myself and not others, doing things to make myself happy, knowing that I am beautiful, unique, and important.
For me, there is no end to self-love. Loving yourself is infinite and there is always room to progress, grow, and love more. Here are some of the ways that I learned to love myself and master self-love.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
This is probably the worst thing that you can do. Someone else’s life may look perfect on the outside, but you have no idea what it’s actually like. You may wish you could be like someone else – whether it is looking like them, thinking like them, or having what they have – but at the end of the day, it’s mainly all an illusion. You might not like it if you have it. Someone posted they got a fantastic job? Well, they may not have posted they got rejected 10 times before that. Until you know someone’s entire story, you have no room to compare. Even then, why do it?
Believe in Yourself
You have to know for yourself that you are special and truly believe it. It doesn’t happen overnight, but once you have that mindset you will be unstoppable. Just because you put on some weight and don’t look the way you want, you should still embrace yourself and know that you are perfect the way you are – even though you think could be better. Believing in yourself goes hand in hand with motivating yourself to reach for more and pushing yourself to new heights. Be your own voice, encourage yourself, reward yourself, coach yourself.
Surround Yourself with Good Vibes
The people around you can be toxic and it can mess up your way of thinking. If you surround yourself with people who look down on you, judge you, don’t treat you right or maybe they talk down on themselves, it may make you believe them or start to think like them. Surround yourself by those who bring you up not by those who push you down. Do things that you like to do, that make you happy, that bring you joy. Positive energy is key. Good vibes not only make you feel good, but they also bring positive thoughts.
Embrace Your Flaws
Not one person in this world is perfect no matter how much they may think they are. It’s important to realize this and to know that everyone has at least one flaw. The first step is to identify them and learn to love them. If you are worried about that blemish on your face, know that it is nothing. People with problematic acne would kill to have just that one blemish. If you feel self-conscious about the gap in your teeth (me), know that it is what defines you and only makes you more unique. Flaws are what make you, you. Start to embrace everything about yourself including your flaws.
When you learn self-love you will not only feel good about yourself, but you will also have a different outlook on life. You feel free, you are not phased by others, you are confident, you can truly LIVE.
I know you have probably heard the saying before “learn to love yourself first before you love anyone else” … it’s definitely something you should consider.
Take a moment to evaluate your life. Do you know what self-love is? Do you embrace it? How do you practice self-love?
You are enough. You are worth it. You are beautiful.